Be-er...

Yesterday while talking with my counselor, as always sifting through the pieces of my life, the topic of my being "a giver" came up.  In the hours following our session, I thought that while being 'a giver' may be seem a good thing, at least better than the opposit,  i am thinking possibly not ! I recalled something said by a women running an eating disorder inpatient place, whose process and clients are beinging filmed for Oprah's network , OWN.  This woman said that hers is the only such place where folks with eating disorders from overeating to anorexia and bulimia were treated side by side, "... because these conditions are just flip sides of the same coin." Both of these conditions damage the body and the mind and the lives of others. So... what about this condition of 'giving' ? My dear counselor said there are three types of people : the givers, the takers and the gakers. LOL...  (Gakers are givers with hidden strings, hidden agendas, and i have no place for them in the following example... but HAD to mention them... )
   Ok... so after carefully thinking about what was shared in session, I concluded that maybe being "a giver" or "a taker" is just the flip side of the smae coin, each as detrimental as the other , just in different ways. In that case, what if a more liberating goal for me is to become a "be-er". YES! To just "be" rather than giving or taking. If i am a 'giver' because it makes me feel good (as my counselor notes) how about i give that motive up and just try to "be" and allow situations , rather than motivations, guide my giving and my taking.